One of the best uses of Facebook is to catch your cheating spouse! According to one law firm, over 20 percent of new divorce petitions contain references to Facebook. Mark Keenan, Managing Director of Divorce-Online said “The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to.” While I’m not sure how people get caught having inappropriate private chats with others, the technical details were not described by the law firm.
An increasingly common reason being cited is “Flirty emails and messages found on Facebook pages”. So if you are married, you may want to avoid posting comments on the profiles of people who are of the opposite sex, especially if the messages are flirty or sexually oriented. All the examples used in a Telegraph news article were from virtual worlds, like Second Life or Yoville.
Jealous husbands and wives beware! Friending your lover on Facebook could have damaging implications. While I regularly see relationships begin and end in my Facebook feed, divorce feed stories are much more rare. Divorces also result in the “Post-Breakup Facebook Effect” that I previously wrote about.
Ultimately Facebook is not the reason why couples get divorced though, as it requires at least one member of the relationship to cross some sort of line whether digital or physical. I’ve heard numerous stories about couples who’s relationship was on the verge of ending thanks to Facebook. Just as there are limitations to what’s acceptable in person, there are also new rules being being created for Facebook behavior.
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Oh, then I guess that flirting with married men on Facebook is really just a great time-saver. Thanks!
Comment by raincoaster — December 23, 2009 @ 2:08 am
well i think its not true..first of all you should not believe in virtual things
dnt get addicted to facebook and plz always trust ur loving ones…some times harsh decisions become painful through out the life
Comment by mini cricket — December 23, 2009 @ 9:59 am
Actually, what really causes divorces is that some folks just can't behave themselves when they're in a relationship taht isn't strong enough to cope with their behaviour.
I have no intention of stopping posting on the pages or threads of my female friends, and wouldn't expect my wife to stop posting on the pages of male friends.
My wife and I are both on Facebook – if folks can't differentiate between friendly / mildly flirtatious messages and messages that are placing their relationships at risk, then eprhaps the relationship is already in serious trouble.
Comment by Joe Pritchard — December 23, 2009 @ 12:46 pm
This is so true — Facebook is one of the best ways to flirt with someone because you can do it 24/7. One of the biggest problems is that people reconnect with old flames. Not every old flame is a threat, but many occupy special places in their memory or they have unfinished business (high school sweetheart, the one that got a way, etc.)
Comment by in agreement — December 23, 2009 @ 3:07 pm
@Mini Cricket:
People should be cautious. Nowadays with husbands cheating on wives, and wives sleeping around on husbands. Facebook doesn't help either when people are OPENLY posting EVERY little detail about their lives. It's not as simple as trusting your loved ones. It has to be mutual and obviously these 20% are not trusting or loving each other.
Comment by alyssa — December 23, 2009 @ 8:50 pm
It isn't really Facebook's fault. Cheating online has been around as long as public access to the internet has been available, it's just becoming more ridiculously convenient with new social media.
Cheaters are being more and more careless because it's way too easy to mess around and opportunities to meet people for sex are literally everywhere – therefore they get caught more often. It seems like the numbers are going up when really it's just next to impossible to cover your tracks online when everyone is interconnected these days.
If you want a good, strong, committed long term relationship I suggest merging your online lives. You don't have to stalk each other, but it's helpful to know one another's passwords or use a joint e-mail account for personal e-mails (you can keep work separate). It helps keep suspicions and unanswered questions at bay. If you don't have enough trust to do that, then you're probably not mature enough for a commitment anyway.
Comment by the internet is evil — December 27, 2009 @ 10:33 pm
Omg, facebook has changed lifo to so many people!
Comment by Pete — March 3, 2010 @ 10:36 am
Omg, facebook has changed life to so many people!
Comment by Pete — March 3, 2010 @ 10:37 am
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Pingback by Facebook Becoming Main Source Of Evidence For Divorce Lawyers — November 10, 2010 @ 5:52 pm
Absolutely not true. Facebook didn't cause the divorce. The person using facebook did. People need to take responsibility for their actions.
Comment by Patricia — December 3, 2010 @ 11:41 am
nice information, great info for me..
I hope for everyone can take this information
all people use facebook but only few people now detail feature of facebook.
Comment by gadget | technology — November 16, 2011 @ 9:19 am