I think for some people it’s different. For me, Facebook is not a ‘collection’ of people. It’s family, friends, Twitter friends, customers, employees, vendors… people I have some relationship or connection with.

I think sometimes ‘friend of a friend’ happens and that’s when it gets out of control. I don’t accept friendship requests if there is no real connection.

I usually delete friends, contact, .ect. There are two reason: first, information overload; second, I’m minimalist - delete bookmark, file, desktop incons, …

Facebook should hurry up and let users “ignore” users.. they stay your friend but don’t show up on your newsfeed.. Yes they let you “see less” about someone but you can’t block them from the “satus update” tab.

It’s the main reason I remove friends… when they abuse the status update feature.

I used to be a friend hoard like everyone is when they hit on Facebook until I gathered over 1500 people that I hardly new in my list and it become unwieldy and bothersome to keep up with Facebook, not to mention the new recommendation kept furiously suggesting more and more people like an avalanche. At the end I had no other choice to close my account and move to a smaller, quieter account where I only add people I consider friends and who have shown genuine desire to communicate with me and follow my life at least from time to time (it’d be unrealistic to expect someone to slave over Facebook to follow all his friends all the time). This way Facebook at least remains what it was meant to be - a hub of social activity and connection with real people.

Yeah connecting with friends really depends on why you do it. If you do it simply to pull people over to a group you have that is another story. Just depends on your goals.

I agree whole-heartedly with the previous comments, the primary reason for removing facebook friends is simply to clean up your newsfeed. We need to get to a point (quickly) where the convention of friending/following someone back as a courtesy stops.

Building a social graph is not a game of accumulating the largest number of friends/followers. Courtesy follows only threaten to dilute the value of the network that we hoped would bring us closer together in the first place.

Facebook began as a way for me to keep in touch with friends and old classmates from years past. Unfortunately, even people who I’d gone to school with and never spoke to within the school walls became additions to my “friends list.” I generally accept them because at one point, we may have been cordial in person. However, oftentimes I find that there’s a reason we never clicked in school and they get deleted. This could be due to crazy status messages or ignorant notes. I have a low tolerance for stupidity.

For example, one of my friend’s status update right now is: X is I have a dream that all the haters will stop hating, that the rainbow ppl will do a take over ….wait we already did that LMFBMFAO.

If she weren’t my cousin’s cousin, I’d delete this girl IMMEDIATELY!

I’ve been known to do a ‘friend purge’ every once in a while. Some people I’ve outgrown, others I can’t remember why I added them in the first place, some I’ve decided I’m just not interested in maintaining a level of communication.

I’ve never once received a ‘why did you drop me’ message, so I’m pretty sure the feeling has been mutual.

I think any valuable social service needs ‘pruning’ to stay relevant and fresh. Adding someone who starts to annoy you - just unfollow. That’s the beauty of all this stuff. You’re not forced to listen to anyone!

I think Facebook tries to redefine the word Friend. In actuality, most friends lists are “people I know” rather than true friends you share life’s moments with. I’m probably a rare user that adheres to some structure: my Facebook friends reflect my actual friends, my LinkedIn contacts reflect my professional contacts, and I make certain not to confuse the two networks. I’m also much older than the average age of a Facebook user, so I’d say age and wisdom have much to do with it.

I clean out my friends list every 3-6 months. Here’s why… I find that people frequently add me as a friend, sometimes persistently, even though we don’t have a real-world acquaintance beyond maybe seeing each other across the street. So, to avoid hurting feelings, I will accept the friend request. Later on, when I’m ‘cleaning up’ my list, I remove some of these to keep my friend feed manageable.

I remove people from my Facebook friends list that don’t contribute to the network with status update or notes i.e., just listen or just post links without adding something about why the post the link.

I see joining my list as a ‘contract’ to share updates, if one side doesn’t do their part, then I don’t see a reason to keep them on the list.

For me, Facebook is an extension of my life offline, not a replacement for it. When I remove an Fb Friend, it is consistent with real life indication of a lapsed relationship, be it good, bad, or just going separate ways. However, I do not accept requests unless from a friend or potential associate, and this has reduced any need to unfriend.

I’ve deleted people who added me and people I’ve added.
Never knew them too well to start with.
Anyway, the reasons were that they ignored my wall posts. I knew for sure that they had seen them! Because they had been responding to other posts made after mine.
I gave them one week, then I deleted them.
They oviously saw me as an icon to add to their list.

I delete people when I see they belong to groups I just cannot deal with. For example, I recently deleted 3 long lost, distant relatives because I noticed they belonged to the group “100 milllion against Obama in 36 days”. That’s just stupid and I could not, in good conscience, associate with anyone who belonged to a group like that. Not even relatives.

I am in a relationship with this one guy. He had me create an account so we could talk online when we werent on the webcam. I got one, even though I didn’t need one because I have myspace. So I got one and yesterday he deleted me off his friends. I asked why, and he said ‘it was necessary’, and then told me he didn’t have the time to explain why he deleted me, which I though was an asshole thing to do. Does it mean he doesn’t want his other friends to know about me? Why delete someone you talk to and have a relationship with? I am upset with him about this, and haven’t seen or spoken to him (He won’t speak to me) Help!

I am going through a tricky situation (perhaps not so tricky) with someone I had been friends with in college but had not spoken with since that time.

They accepted my request but the times I posted a message on the wall post or sent the initialy e-mail asking how they have been, etc. there has been no response or acknowledgement. It does appear that other wall posts were answered. I am not holding a grudge or being vindictive but puzzled as to why someone would accept a friend request in the first place without intending to reply at all. It would be better etiquette to ignore in the first place rather than accept.

I am going to follow the advice already posted and wait a week and then unfriend if there is nothing (I am sure this will be the case).

i deleted a friend recently because i thought back to how insensitive they were after i had major surgery (they were supposed to come see me, never did. instead, offered to meet me for a drink the next day). mind you, they knew i had organs removed. just couldn’t deal with their presence on my fb.

I delete people with whom I was not very close anyway. I can usually gauge this by how annoying their status posts become to me. I feel some people use this status feature only to get attention, and I get annoyed. Facebook should be fun, funny, and friendly. To me it is not necessary to post every ache, pain, political opinion, negative thought, rude comment etc… to all of your ‘friends’. Usually if I get annoyed enough to delete someone because of annoying posts, this is an indication to me that this person and I have grown apart anyway. I too have never received a message asking why I deleted someone, so I assume they either didn’t notice or didn’t care. Either way, no harm no foul.

So you oppose removing people you never talk to or see because it might damage the purity of the precious “social graph”?

You are the saddest person in the world.

I deleted my friend’s husband from FB. When we lived in the same city, I forced myself to like him for the sake of his wife’s and my friendship. On FB, my friend’s husband was an obnoxious braggart. He also posted pictures of his high school prom with someone other than his wife. He even posted that his wife was mad at him for having more friends than her. It’s not a competition. I really couldn’t stand this guy to begin with and this behavior solidified my dislike. Not only did I delete him from my friend list, I blocked him. I feel 100% better!

I recently (this past Sunday) deleted my entire Friends list from Facebook over what might be considered a slight by a handful of friends. The reality is that I started off deleting just those friends that ticked me off and then it came down to me asking myself, “Are these people really my friends?” That’s what prompted me to delete everyone and I’m only adding people that I’ve had actual physical contact with AND we have some inherent connection that defines a true friendship i.e. extends beyond virtual friendship.

To answer the question the question simply, it’s definitely okay to delete Facebook friends. In my case, if these so-called friends were true friends, they’d have noticed that I was no longer on their Friends list and tried to get in touch with me about it.

I usually accept anyone who requests to friend me although its not guaranteed that i keep them aboard. I actually just deleted a few people i ‘know’ but dont hangout with this morning.

If someone from my past gets onto my facebook and cant respond to or say a hello….they are gone quickly.

I delete people, because honestly, I do not have 300+ friends in real life. I know a lot of people, but not to such a PERSONAL extent. Also, I just want to be connected WITH MY friends, and people who I talk to a lot and have a connection with. If I only know you from school and hardly talk to you, EVER, then there’s no point of having you on my list. Especially if I have to deal with all this random crap on my newsfeed from people I don’t have anything to do with! I like to keep my fb secure, and I don’t have all of these random people seeing all of my pictures and other information!

nice views on why do you delete facebook friends…. if you can’t make good relationship, it is better to stop that relation there itself…

just my 2cent, someone from the internet-age for past 14yrs, observed all newsgroup,irc,im,p2p,now social-crab era.
people are stupid and ignorant, that’s the basic idea how the facebook started.
The owner knew these little kids and teens-whors love to share and showoff what they are upto, how cool, great they are, and how much pride they got having thousands of friends,
seriously, WTF is this?

soon, those dumbs will realize how stupid they were, how un-private,unprofessional they were, how or why somewhat their silly photos, information got carried all over google, searched. not to mention their bad behaviours be reflected in real life sometime soon. (yes some unknown will know half of you before u meet)

to be honest
do you give a @#@# what other people do in their life?
since when did ’showing-off’ (be friend of friend of friend) became so fashionable?
since when did everybody loved to post all their tiny, boring-dairies became so hot?
since when did everybody loved to be known by somebody? where did the privacy go? you will regret it,

maybe we need to change the concept of ‘friend’ in all dictionaries, i.e. friend = anyone u may know name or know face, visually or mentally.

god, people are soo stupid… and u know who loves it? the owners. people above-you, the chances are, its too true to be accepted as true. 99.99% of yous.

you’ll see, soon, everyone will be gps/tracked, and u start friending with your friend (initially) with gps tracks in real-time, and later some gpsbook.com will come up and pretty soon anybody and everybody can find you so long as you put up with it, sure u will love the world of convienence to find your friend’s location, in exchange of your privacy that are shoved down to trash bin. you are worth nothing but a part of giant owned mesh game, a peasant.

I find it really petty that people delete from their list, I mean, it depends how you view FB. I see it as fun, have a mix of family, old and current friends and people I’ve never met on my list. I enjoy virtually meeting people from all over the world I would never normally come into contact with, and I’m not so bothered by people on my list that I feel the need to delete them just because they have ‘ignored’ me for a few weeks. How can someone ‘ignore’ you through a PC for goodness sake? It’s not real!!! Well not in the same way as if they were ignoring you in person - that would be different - but some of us are having a tough time differentiating between the two aren’t we?!!
Not replying to every single message/invite/update and not getting annoyed by people’s ‘creative’ status updates? It’s called having a life and not living it vicariously through an online social network!

pls let me repost this in my acc

I don’t often delete people because I’m picky who I add to begin with. But so far the ones I have deleted have been people that I didn’t know or didn’t know very well who I decided didn’t make sense for them to be on my page because nothing ever changed once I added them. Also, I am thinking of deleting this guy who I like…and he likes me, too, but he’s playing too many games and taking advantage of our Facebook connection. He never calls, just posts random stupid crap on my wall. So I’m going to delete him to make a point that if he wants to get with me, he’s going to have to at least start calling me haha.

I should note, that I block a LOT of people from my newsfeed. This seems to solve the problem of dealing with super-annoying people who you aren’t ready to delete yet or don’t want to delete entirely. Only problem with that is that you can still see the status updates on facebook mobile. Grr

I think that if you accept/add a friend to FB you should keep them unless they annoy you. There was this girl on the tennis team I knew, so I added her as a friend, months later she deleted me. Another old classmate of mine deleted me.

That’s fine, these people were losers anyways. I added them as a friend because I thought that it was a nice gesture. People can be jerks regardless. Anyways, this girl had a serious addiction problem. She was a stay at home mom LITERALLY on FB 24/7 who posted statuses every 1/2 hr! Very sad.

And the former classmate is a disgusting fat, bald guy that probably pays women to date him. So in the end I can’t be annoyed because I am better off than both of them! Hi Jen and John!

Someone asked me to be his friend months ago, so I accepted becuse I initially thought he was a friend of my brothers in high school, I recognized his name, and we started this little “relationship” of sending hugs back and forth, etc. Nothing inappropriate, just fun. Then, when I suggested we actually meet, he freaked out, stopped replying to my posts, no more hugs of course, basically dissappeared - then just the other day he “defriended” me! What a joke. He was basically a loser anyway, with a pathetic info page .. .ie: attended: “school of hard knocks” employed: “self” Big red flags!! His profile pic was of a 17 yr. old and he should be about 45. Just really stupid, I guess I felt sorry for him. The thing that really bothers me is that he is the loser and he unfriended ME. I thought many times to unfriend him, but thought that to be immature and mean. Lesson learned!! Moral of the story: If you feel like de-friending someone, do it quick, before they do it to you!

What happened to me is that a really close friend of mine deleted me after me having said to his face, literally, ‘I don’t like you.’ I was a bit drunk the night of this, I guess, accident and my actions were awful. Truth is I had my reasons, but I was only trying to make him apologize. Next thing i know, he deleted me as a facebook friend. I really don’t think he doesn’t want my friendship, but rather he’s trying to show me something, kind of rebel against what I said. What better tool to use than Facebook? Kind of like the silent treatment. A while back I deleted him too actually, because of another incident and truth is I was trying to get his attention, and of course, got it. So I don’t know what to do now, because I don’t see him around too often and it’s like we’ll never be able to mend our friendship. We’re both too proud I suppose.

Considering how mobile we are (people are constantly moving away), you’re practically required to have it in order to keep in touch with other people. I’ve honestly had people delete me because I wouldn’t post pictures of myself every week. I use it but I like to read and do things that don’t require a computer. I agree that not talking to someone for a few weeks doesn’t mean you’re not still friends. People have lives outside the computer (jobs, family, and whatnot). It doesn’t mean they’re deliberately ignoring you. Not everyone is interested in learning what I bought at the mall yesterday so I reserve status posting for special events. I enjoy making casual friends over the internet(in forums on a username). We may not know each like that, but they’ve always provided interesting, touching, and amusing insight on culture and politics without feeling that the legitimacy of their opinions is based on whether they are pretty or popular enough.

I found an old friend on facebook about a month ago. We were best friends in school from the time we were 13 years old until she stopped calling me in our senior year. She found new more popular friends to hang out with. I was heart broken. I thought the world of her. We used to have so much fun hanging out together. We used to do the craziest things just for a laugh. My sides used to heart by the time I went home at night from laughing so hard. I tried over the years to keep in touch with her. She never once called me. If I callad her she would see me, but to me it seemed as though it was painful for her. I never could figure out what I did wrong. When I looked her up on facebook, I was thrilled to find her there. I invited her to be my friend on facebook. She accepted. That was about a month ago. I wrote her a note and she never responded to it. The only thing she did do was to post an adertisement on my wall to vote one of her friends for an election. I felt insulted. I don’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings and would never delete them, but I have finally come to accept the fact that there was only a one way friendship. I am going to free myself of caring for someone who doesn’t give a crap about me! I will delete her and anyone like her from my life once and for all! I have to realize that very few people are like me. But I think that it will finally feel good to put it to rest for good. You are lucky if you have more than one real friend in this life. I think I have that. So I feel very rich.

Well…my story is a bit different but still it involves “befriending” or the opposite…I have an aunt whom I don´t get to see very often (don`t live in the same city)the thing is she`d always treated me with so much friendliness…say things like “no matter what happens we are family”…always wanted me go visit and stay there “i love you” etc etc….well when I started my fb account I added her and THREE TIMES IN A ROW she ignored me (?) We had never ever had a fight or bad encounter and in fact I used to feel so much apreciation for her…and I assume she doesn´t know that theres a way to find out when somebody`s pushed the “IGNORE” botton …ok I wrote her a PM just greeting her without letting her know what i knew and nothing happened
I am the only niece that is not on her list now and all this results so dissapointing and even hurting that it makes me think YOU SHOULD JUST DeLETE WHOMEVER THE HELL YOU FEEL LIKE greetings!

While I agree that it is good to limit your facebook friends, as someone who has been on the recieving end of being deleted -its not so fun. Recently someone who I would consider a failry decent friend suddenly deleted me. That’s a pretty easy way to tell if someone doesn’t like you. I know its a persons choice, but just don’t add someone in the first place instead of deleting them. I think that is a bit more polite. That is a horrible way to “let go” of a friend.

I’m considering deleting a friend who I used to be really close friends with. We used to chat by phone or email every couple of days and go for drinks reguarly. Then, a couple of months ago I lost my job and he didn’t want to know me anymore. Never answered my calls/ texts, didn’t want to met up etc. I saw him on facebook talking to other people but he didn’t even send me a message to ask how my job search was going. I miss him but think I’ll delete him for two reasons 1) he was a poor friend and I shouldn’t bother with him anymore and 2) to make him realise how pissed off I am. Perhaps he’ll be pleased as he clearly doesn’t want to know me anymore.

I find Facebook to be odd like that.
Some days I’ll look at my friends list and it will say 543 for example, and then the next day 4-5 people will be gone from my list. Some people delete their account and then reisntate it repetitively, other people just delete.
I found that some people ignored my friend request, others have deleted me. No biggie.

If the people you deleted are people you’ve mailed, and you use gmail — gmail automatically puts anyone you mail into your addressbook. If you then use FAcebook’s “find my friends using my addressbook feature” .. BAM!! .. There’s all the people you deleted! .. I do this every few months, and it really serves to remind me who I don’t want to be friends with anymore.

I just deleted some people, of course no one wants to be deleted but than again its not real, its Facebook, i kind of see it as an online address book, and just like any address book or contact lists it needs to be clean out from time to time, and sometimes it doesn’t mean I hate the person or never say hello if I see them it just means I don’t want that kind of contact with them as I keep my Facebook pretty private, probably shouldn’t have added some people in the first place with not knowing them as well as I would have liked…I really think people shouldn’t take it too personal, I mean people delete me for whatever reason, I feel hey its your choice and it is up to you who and what you have on it…

its more than that, an old friend of mine harrasses me. she updates her status basically telling me too go to hell and talks about me. she stalks everything i put on there. i want too delete her but at the same time i dont because im curious about what she does/says about me and all. idk what too do.

There is a lot more to the “delete a friend psyche” than meets the eye. I too was hurt when a friend deleted me from their Facebook page. But after finding out that they had deleted several friends all at once made me wonder why even more. Come to find out, this person had just had a very close relative die. Out of grief and being controlled by emotions they deleted everyone that was remotely connected or reminded them of this relative who passed. Plus to make matters worse, this person’s sibling posted pics on Facebook about the funeral which was like pouring salt into a open wound. So you see there is ofton more to the story than meets the eye. So don’t be too quick to judge or become offended when you don’t “really” know all the facts.

To “delete a friend” is a complex issue. A friend had some unflattering pictures posted on their Facebook page. This person is very conscious of their appearance and always want to look their best. They had a crush on one of the “friends” that was listed on their Facebook page. They were so embarrassed and humiliated by the pictures that they deleted the friend they had the crush on. They were hoping they had deleted the friend before they saw the pics.

To the person who posted the last comment, why didn’t your friend just delete the photos, rather than delete the person they had a crush on, or why didn’t your friend change their privacy settings so that the person they had a crush on couldn’t view those particular photos ?.

I would delete someone if they sent me messages saying they would like to meet up with me, but don’t actually follow through with those plans, or i’d delete them if they never spoke to me at all,or ignore a message i sent them.What’s the point in having them on your page if they are going to act like that ?.They obviously aren’t true friends if they behave that way.Fot example, i’m considering deleting my ex boyfriend.He sent me the friend request, even though he was seeing someone else at the time.However, he finished with that girl soon after he sent me the friend request,and deleted her from his friend list, and he has sent me private messages saying he’d like to meet up,saying that we had good times before, and even talking about when we used to kiss !.However, i have written a couple of comments on his wall that he hasn’t responded to.With one of them, he replied to the person who posted before me, and didn’t respond to what i said, so i think that was deliberate.Do you agree that i have good reasons to delete him ?.

how can i find out who has deleted me from their friend list?

I wrestled with the decision of deleting people from my friends list for weeks. I finally deleted 2 people just now. It doesn’t feel to good to do it, because I really wanted friendly relationships with them but one of them just kept ignoring my wall posts and ansewering others. A minute before I was gonna cut her , I saw her on facebook chat and confronted her about the situation. She told meif she responded to everyone she wouldn’t be able to work or sleep and that I was taking this facebook thing to seriously, then I think she logged off. CUTT!!!!! I cut her immediately. I understand her point but she was responding to people all around me on her wall and playing farmtown every freakin minute. I think it takes virtually no effort at all to respond to someone on facebook. It takes more effort in real life. The same is true for ignoring someone. So if she cant even respond to my post on facebook well she doesn’t really care about the friendship and it’s disrespectful. PEACE OUT!! thats what I said to her

Is there a term for deleting a facebook friend?

How DO YOU delete friends? I have tried and must be in the wrong place. Someone got on my list and I have no clue who the person is, and the person never sends me messages or comments. I want to remove that person and don’t know how. Help!

Facebook drives me a little crazy at times. Well I should not blame Facebook; I blame my friends and family. I have had friends and family delete me or decline my invitation to join my Facebook page because they had a grudge with someone else who was on my Facebook page. Very child-like I know but that’s what their reasoning was. You can’t control how others act and think. Compare Facebook to the whole scheme of things before getting your feathers ruffled too badly about being deleted. Pick your battles carefully; being deleted from Facebook isn’t that big of a deal. I’d be more upset if someone died or I had a terminal illness…

Recently, I was let go from my job. In the weeks since, I have realized that I was the lucky one, as I loved the job but grew to hate the atmosphere and office relations…I facebooked and stumbled with everyone there, including my boss…The last two to three months my boss had been being a complete dick to me…for no reason…i mean a real dick…..anyway, on my last day, after i said “later” to everyone, I walked into his office to clock out and he just looked at me and said, “You cant leave, theres this and this that have to be done.” (this and this amount to shit, btw) He then said I was disrecpectful. I looked at him and said, “Dude, as disrespectful as you have been to me in the last couple of months…Fuck You.” I walked out. Left work. Went home. Deleted this tard from my Facebook. It made me feel so good. Strange I know. haha.

(he commented on one of the designs that I posted on my site about a month later) dickhead.

Over the course of the last 2 years ive grown away from a group of friends that i hungout with for a very long time, im a 31 year old man.

One by one ive deleted them from my facebook and basically the last one from that clique going bye bye tonight. Im not into being 1 of 747 fake ‘friends’ of theirs.

You lose touch with people as you get older and the time comes to just close the door completely. It feels good to move on to better things and people, you youngsters will see.

I have been deleted by 4 friends in facebook, they are all girls. And I have talked to each one of them 3 or 4 times only. Anyways, they all deleted me, one of them never says hi to me and she looks scared when she meets me!! I have never been annoying and haven’t done anything to her AT ALL. I just say hi to her and smile when I meet her. It is sooooo confusing, even if she knows that I know i got deleted by her, SO WHAT??? im really confused!! I want her to say hi at least!?!?! im startin to hate facebook because of this. It makes no sense at all!!?

why do some people take it so serious, only stup,id people do. I will never add anyone again.

Wow after reading this article, and all the comments people left, I’m starting to think as to why I wanted to add every single person I went to high school with on facebook! They aren’t my true friends, I don’t talk to them on a regular basis, they don’t say hi to me, respond to my statuses, write on my wall to see how i’m doing. But then I see them on occassion writing on another person’s wall from high school to say hi or how ya doin’? How shallow are they to do that! Recently I got deleted from this one girl I went to high school with, again she wasn’t a real friend, only knew of her. But yeah one day this past week she just decides to delete me without giving me a reason at all! I thought what the heck? So i requested her today to be my friend a few hrs later she ignores my request. I requested her again and this time ask why she decides to delete me and i asked her if i did or say anything to upset her. After 45 min of wondering why she would ignore me, I sent her a message saying I’m sure you have your reasons for deleting me and I am really not sure what they are but whatever. I noticed that you ignored my request the first time i wanted to be added back on your friends, I requested you a second time but you can ignore that one too if that’s what you want to do. I ended the note by saying I had nothing against her and i hope she has a wonderful life. I know she knows of me and knows who I am, we have spoken once or twice before in this lifetime, but again she is only someone i know of not necessarily a real friend. But yeah I think I am really going to RECONSIDER who is a TRUE friend on my facebook ( I do have a few true friends and family on there ). But I bet if I deleted most of the people I just added for the sake of adding my friend count would go down tremendously. Word of advice to people going through the same situation as me, don’t get too upset if a “friend” you knew from high school decides to all the sudden delete you without giving you a reason. Because they’re really not all that worth it anyway!

It’s pretty petty to delete someone from facebook unless they are stalking you or writing nasty comments on your wall. Just “hide” their profiles instead if their posts bother you—you never know when you’ll want the connection again. Also, it hurts a little to be deleted. Not a lot. It’s not like getting cancer or losing a job, but it does hurt. Why hurt someone else’s feelings? MAYBE they like you and MAYBE they just want to see what you’ve been up to. That’s the beauty of fb–it lets you see what people are up to without necessarily having in depth correspondences. Deleting people because it’s cathartic or gives you a sense of “purging” is silly. It’s freaking facebook, so lighten up.

oh one more thing to add to the comment above. Regarding the people who have deleted me–I always figured out who it was and I have never once contacted them to find out why. My reasoning is that it’s their drama and I’m not going to waste my time tracking them down to ask them about it. People who delete other people after accepting their friend invitations are WAY TOO dramatic for the internet.

I met this guy recently and added him as a friend on facebook. At the time I thought he was really nice and genuine however never replies to my texts, answers my calls nor chats to me on facebook but when he visited this weekend he was forever texting to might i add another female when I was around. NOt the best way to go about things so why would I want him knowing what i was up to.

I added a childhood friend (she lived around the corner since I can remember) on FB in June/July, and she accepted my friend request. We were at each others weddings, showers, etc., even though we weren’t close anymore (she was 2 years younger). My Dad was even asked to give the toast to the bride at her wedding. The last time I saw her was when she brought flowers to my parent’s house when my brother died 10 years ago. We had some communication and catch up on facebook. Her parents still live near mine, but she and I never run into each other. I noticed that she deleted me as a friend a few days ago. I’m really perplexed - maybe even a little hurt. I checked and she still has a fb page, so it isn’t like she deleted her profile. My last communication with her was in September when I asked how her kids were enjoying the school year so far and she responded. I think it would be too weird to send her a message asking why she deleted me. I noticed that she only had about 12 friends on her list to begin with, and most of them seemed to be family. So, either she doesn’t have many friends, is very selective, (then why add me in the first place) or she never liked me lol. I had one crazy status during a stressful moment, and I remember deleting it a few hours later, but other than that, I’m pretty normal lol. If anyone is so intolerant of others that they delete a friend due to annoying statuses, then they are not someone I would ever want to know. Some people say, oh well, it’s only fb, but what her actions indicate is that she is not interested in any communication with me. I really do enjoy fb, and keeping in touch with friends and family all over the world. For the most part, it has been a pleasant experience.

I deleted a few friends in Facebook over a period of months. I signed up in July, and only wanted to have a few friends, maybe 50, because it gets so tedious(like myspace), to keep up w/them all. BUT…I found more than just the main ones I wanted to get back in touch with, and then before I knew it, hoardes of people kept finding me, & if it was someone I wanted to add, missed, and hadn’t seen in ages& was cool with-I added them. My issue, of why I deleted some friends(about 10)in a matter of 3 months was: they simply were-not-corresponding after that 1st intital convo, and why should I add someone to keep them, if they won’t post to me after I’ve commented on their profile, pictures, and sent them cute little gifts, invites, or just plain out asked them questions? I won’t put someone on my FB who is just interested in showing off how well they are loved, & who want numbers of friends on their page to add up. Sorry, that is NOT me. I am real, & I won’t just beef you up so you can look like the friendship central or demigod/godess of the net. If you don’t want to chit chat w/me or keep up correspondance–don’t request to be added.

Oh Polly, stop being so dramatic yourself. If you think someone is going to just delete people in FB because it is classified as being “friends,” then you read too much into it. I am in FB, (& I have stated why)to look up people I haven’t seen or lost touch with due to moving, going to a school or college that was far away from them, and many other reasons. I just won’t add anybody. And if someone DOESN’T have the decency to at least answer a question or comment back once in awhile, or not at all–why ARE they on Facebook then?

**further note** It ticks me off when you are trying to talk to someone, especially that you grew up with, and comment every so often on their page, & just give them a hi, how are you, haven’t heard from you….& they don’t post back to you anymore, BUT, they do all the time on their page to others, do quizzes, & play games, & post surveys about other friends, that is just rude. You can plainly see they HAVE been online to their page. No excuse for that kind of ignoring when you haven’t done anything to them at all.

How do I delete pics of some folks in my facebook?

I’ve found that the less friends I have, the easier it is to focus on the ones that I actually care about.

I delete friends who I am no longer in any way connected to, who weren’t really even friends to begin with, and/or whose posts annoy me to death. Really any combination of 2 of those factors, among others, causes me to delete. If I am interested by a persons posts, however, I will keep them on my list even if we’ve barely ever talked.

one of my relatives deleted me not sure why since they added me in the first place..I even welcomed them to facebook and then they just delete me for no reason? This is not someone I see very much of but still..In the past they gossiped about me saying some things that I didn’t agree with behind my back but I never mentioned it..we joke around at family parties and chat a little..I guess its just a casual friendship but why add someone if you’re just going to delete them a month later? Strange if you ask me..maybe they didn’t like my profile for some reason? Pretty sure I didn’t offend them..

Its a great feeling when you delete a large amount of people you don’t have any connection with anymore. Its like real life, you move on and make new friends. I also think it should be a mutual feeling, you don’t hear from someone in a while or vice-versa, ’seeya’, simple as that.

How do I delete a friend? I thought I knew this person but I don’t.

I only add people I am or were friends with, I’ve never had to delete anyone.